The 5 love languages of teenagers
The author Gary Chapman is a practising psychologist, specialized in family and children. He says the 5 love languages are word of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of services and gifts. If you read any of his other books you already know this but the challenge is our teenagers who are moody, tired, hungry, overwhelmed and know it all. This book is amazing in detailing every love language situation with personal examples, telling us what it is, how to do it, and giving us creative ideas for our every day lives.
At the beginning of the book Dr Chapman is talking about the cultural factors, meaning the gap between parents and teenagers, the current scary situation and the positive statistics. As he says: “The reality is that most of what we read in the newspaper and hear via the media deals with the 10 percent of troubled teenagers – most of whom were also troubled children. You and your teenager can have a positive relationship. That’s what your teenager wants, and I assume that is what you want. In this chapter, we’re going to look at what I believe to be the most important aspect of relationship, namely, meeting your teen’s need for emotional love.”
After detailing all love languages and knowing how they work it is time to discover your teenager’s primary love language with a handy test in the book. I simply copied it out with a printer and asked my kids to fill it out.
This book is not just a game changer but a must read book for all parents with teenagers or pre-teenagers in their family. Read it sooner then later, it will save you!